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Month One

    INTRODUCTION:

    Dear Parents,

    You are the greatest influence in the life of your teenager.

    Research proves it time and again your voice is the loudest in their life. That is a great opportunity for you to make a forever impact in the life of your teenager.

    It is also a great opportunity for us to partner with you and cheer you on in the process.

    For that reason, we are launching an online parenting class. 

    We chose to do this online instead of asking you to come to the church for meetings, because we respect the fact that you have a very busy schedule. Now through this online class you can receive encouragement in your pajamas if you want!

    It's a great honor to serve your family and to cheer you on as you lead your teenager spiritually!

    John and Tyler

    Part One    Part Two

    Part One: How to Leave a Legacy that Matters

    Today we are going to begin by talking about your will….

    Do you have a will? You know, the paper that they pull out when you die to see who gets your stuff. The process of preparing a will is not fun. The lawyer asks you, “If you die who will you give your stuff to?” You say, “Give it to my spouse.” The lawyer quickly responds, “and if your spouse dies who will you give your stuff to?”

    This goes on and on until it seems like everyone is dead and you are so frustrated you consider telling the lawyer that they can have it! When you write a will you figure out how you are going to leave your stuff, but what about the stuff that matters most?

    • What values are you going to leave your teenager?
    • What will you teach them about what is right and wrong in this world?
    • What will your teenager know about faith?

    Our student ministry wants to help you leave a rich inheritance to your teenager of the stuff that really matters.

    That is why we want to introduce you to the Rites of Passage Experience. We are going to help you have the conversations with your teenager that matter the most. We are going to give you the tools to infuse faith into the most import moments in life.

    Here are the 7 Rites of Passage we are going to encourage you to lead your teenager through:

    • 6th Grade – Preparation for Adolescence
    • 7th Grade – Blessing Ceremony
    • 8th Grade – Purity Weekend
    • 9th Grade – Driving Contract
    • 10th Grade – Money Matters
    • 11th Grade – Family Tree
    • 12th Grade – Manhood/Womanhood Ceremony

    Lets finish today’s class by watching this 3 minute video. It explains the Rites of Passage Experience we are launching as the foundation of our Parent Ministry.

    You can see it by clicking this link… https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/42874938/c9b551a865

    Part Two: How to Leave a Legacy that Matters

    Today we are asking the question, “How do you pass down faith to your teenager?”

    Let’s begin by watching this 3 minute video… http://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/43519296/a13f91ff3d

    Deuteronomy 6:4-9 gives us our mission from God as parents:

    “Hear O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.”

    Quickly unpack this job description for parents into 3 action steps that you can do today to begin passing down faith in your home:

    1) Put it in your Heart First- “these commands…are to be on your hearts” You can’t give away what you don’t have. You can’t inspire someone else to do something unless it inspires you first. If you want your teenager to be fueled by their faith than make sure that is what is fueling you.

    ACTION STEP: Consider planning a spiritual retreat for yourself. You could get away for just a few hours or you could invest a whole week in a focused time with God. It may feel selfish, but filling your own heart spiritually allows it the ability to spill over into the life of your family.

    2) Infuse Faith into Everyday Life- “talk about them when you sit at home” .The center of spiritual activity for your family should be your home. Many times we believe that should be the church. In God’s blueprint for passing down faith He sets up parents to be the leaders and the home to be the main stage.

    ACTION STEP: Brainstorm ways you can discuss faith with your teenager daily. Practice intentional conversation about spiritual matters this week. It could be as simple as leaving your teenager a note with your favorite verse and an encouraging word. It makes a difference.

    3) Use Symbols and Ceremonies to Pass Down Faith- “Tie them as symbols on your hands” If you read the Bible you will quickly see that God values symbols and ceremonies as a way of giving faith away to the next generation. The Hebrew word for “impress” in verse 7 literally means to “tattoo”. God made the hearts and minds of children and He knew that the way to “tattoo” faith on their hearts was to give them symbols they can touch and ceremonies they can experience.

    ACTION STEP: What are some Christian symbols and ceremonies you can bring into your home and lead your family to experience together? 

    God sure did give us an important job didn’t He? The encouragement we have for you today is that you are not alone in this task. God Himself will give you all that you need to accomplish His will as a parent.

    Also, our church’s Student Ministry stands ready to partner with you in this task. This is why we started this Online Parenting Class and we are making the Rites of Passage Experience available to your family.

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